The sexual marketplace shifts in January. High-value men recognize the pattern and respond accordingly. I’ve been responding for about four years now.
January 5th. First Monday of the new year. You know what’s happening right now? Every woman who made “find someone” her resolution is flooding the apps. The January dating market is chaos. Supply has spiked. Attention is fragmented. A high-value man does not compete in chaos. A high-value man withdraws and lets the market correct.
I’ve been withdrawing strategically since 2022. The results speak for themselves: zero failed relationships, zero drama, zero compromise of my mission. Some people call this “being single.” I call it optimization.
Understanding The January Dating Market
From January through mid-February, the dating marketplace experiences what I call the Resolution Surge. Women who spent December alone suddenly want connection. Men who lack abundance mentality scramble to meet them. It’s a feeding frenzy, and feeding frenzies attract low-value behavior.
I observe this from a distance. From my apartment. Where I’ve been most evenings since around 2022. Working on myself. Building my brand. Maintaining the physical standards that would make me an obvious choice if I chose to participate.
Why Withdrawal Works
My ex, Amanda—who left in 2021 citing my “obsession with dating theory”—is now, according to her Instagram, engaged. To a man who probably didn’t optimize his morning routine or study female psychology for three years. A man who probably just… met her. Conventionally.
Good for them. Genuinely. I’m not bitter. The algorithm has already shown me her posts 47 times this month. That’s data collection, not jealousy. I take notes.
The Q1 Strategy
Instead of entering the January dating market, I’m focusing on what I call “Value Accumulation.” By March, the resolution women will have given up. The apps will stabilize. And I’ll still be here—four years into my journey, more disciplined than ever, ready to re-enter the market at the optimal moment.
The optimal moment keeps shifting, but that’s the market. You have to stay ready. I stay ready. Every morning at 5 AM, gym by 5:30, cold shower by 7, journaling by 7:30. I have done this 1,460 consecutive days. My dating life has been nonexistent for all of them, but correlation is not causation.
My Door Dash driver last night was a woman. She said “here’s your food.” I said “thank you.” Eye contact: 1.5 seconds. Could have meant something. Probably didn’t. But I noted it.
The January dating market will sort itself out. The high-value man waits. I’ve been waiting for quite some time now. That’s discipline.
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